I'm a bit baffled by the Blue&Me phone thing, but as I don't really need it I haven't persued it too much.  I have a Nokia 6300 which is quite an old model now, but there are loads of them about and the list isn't entirely clear as to what it should or shouldn't do.  It pairs up and exchanges contacts but doesn't do anything when texts come in.  I've been through all the menus and can't see any configuration settings for it (apart from visual or audible prompting) so I fugure it just doesn't work. 

As long as my iPod stays working (which it still is, no problems since the one reported above) I'm happy!